To Meet Your Lover

One must know that when one meets a lover, a certain spell falls over both one and the other. In this case, love is conditioned and what one sees as a reflection of all that is missing in oneself. “You complete me” is a romantic lie. One must complete oneself in order to enter the realm of True Unconditional Love. One must be willing to work to complete their own imperfections, a lifetime task, and be in that process to be capable of offering anything more than conditioned love to another.

To look for oneself in others must be the height of selfishness. The only role the other has to play in one’s life, in that circumstance, is to be a puppet and always fall short of connection. Looking for love in all the wrong places, one wanders from person never making a true connection, only temporarily using others as furnishing for their own inner World.

Therefore, the only way to truly make space in one’s inner World for another is to begin furnishing one’s own inner World with deep and beautiful experiences of hatred and love, discord and harmony, grievance and forgiveness, misapprehension and truth, doubt and trust, despair and comfort, sadness and joy.  

The relative World is one of duality. By mastering dualities, one rises above an Earthly existence. When one rises above duality, one is no longer consumed with greed, passion, lust, arrogance, deceit, self-glorification, envy, rage, gluttony and sloth. One’s consumption of these excesses swindles oneself out of an existence of peace.

This is not to say that some things are not worth fighting for. 

Values: Your values are important in the way that you live and work. They determine priorities and guide decisions that you make. If your behavior matches your values, life can be peacefully.

Justice: the quality of being just, moral and equitable is worth fighting for.

Decency: we must live together on Earth even if we disagree with each other. Decency is worth fighting for against lawless individuals. 

Inclusion: Equal access to opportunities and resources for people who might otherwise be excluded is worth fighting for.

When you fight for something important, there are certain principles that help you keep your peaceful center.  

1. Once you have determined to fight, it is important not to think of “the Other” as your enemy. They are simply standing in the way of maintaining balance and decency on Earth.

2. Keep your focus on what you are fighting for and away from “the Other.” Expect no outcome what so ever. Know that you are fighting a righteous battle and let that be enough. Let go of winning or losing. Let your righteous purpose be enough of a win for you, even if you lose the battle.

3. Contain your need for glory and recognition in the idea that we are not due a reward for what we do in the interest of justice and decency.  

If you follow these guidelines, you are not likely to become like your unjust opposition who demonstrates all of the darkest qualities of human nature. Their peace is conditional on “finding a place in heaven” which they have convinced themselves will be their reward, or financial success, which is fleeting.

Work to be an Ocean in a drop rather than a drop from the ocean.